pfrsue wrote:Saying, “I disagree with you and here’s why…” carries a much more respectful tone than saying, “What you said is probably the stupidest thing I’ve ever heard”.
I think a rational, reasoned approach lends more credibility to a point of view than a tone that dismisses someone else’s opinion out of hand.
I won't disagree with that statement on the level of a personal opinion. In fact, many here feel the same exact way.
However, there are also others who actually prefer to read the no-nonsense, no-pussy-footin'-around, colorful tone and personality method of expressing one's opinion, and have said so several times.
To each his own... it takes all kinds... variety is the spice of life.
It really all goes back to what people want this forum to be. If people still want the same thing that they have wanted since it was created, which is to allow people to express themselves freely, then that will apply to everyone. It is not fair to say, "I want freedom of expression for everyone except the people who express themselves in a way that I don't appreciate/feel comfortable with/agree with, etc."
Unfortunately, I know that when this comes up, the issue for the loudest complainers is really not the method of expression... it is about one clique's dislike of one person. The people screaming the loudest about this time and time again
(this certainly does not include everyone stating their opinions here, but these people know who they are) have often used the very same language and tone and attacks themselves! They have used this "method of expression" against others themselves, publicly and privately, time and time again, yet they are the quickest to cry foul when it comes from someone that they do not like.
I am well aware that there really are people who can become truly offended or prefer not to read certain language, etc... but those people
do not turn around and use the same method on others. It is the first group of people who, in my eyes, really don't have a lot of credibility in this argument because they've shown their hypocrasy on the issue. If you have issue with a certain tone or language, I respect that; what I don't respect is when you PRETEND to have issue with something to satisfy a personal agenda. Keep in mind I see a lot more from many posters than what is publicly displayed... I know who is feeding me crap and who has a genuine concern. Those who have a genuine concern, I would like to hear your thoughts... perhaps in a new poll to compare with the one I posted earlier in this thread.
Folks, it just simply doesn't work both ways. Either we allow
everyone to express themselves as they wish and abandon the vendettas against individuals; or everyone, across the board, has to conform to a "kinder, gentler" forum tone.
People keep crying out about favoritism; well here's a prime example. It's good for all or none, not just the ones that fall in line with your specific personal comfort level or those who are your buddes.
Please Know This:
I can not just ban people that I don't like. Honestly, that would be great for me, but I CAN'T DO THAT. Trust me, if I could, several people would not be here. If I can't even ban those who I don't want around, being the person who has to take all the personal attacks from those people when things don't go their way, what makes anyone else think that they can tell me who to get rid of? Just because you don't like someone is NOT reason for me to get rid of them.
Now, if the majority agrees that the entire tone of this forum and it's current allowances should be changed, and new rules are formed, people will be forced to abide by those rules. Until then, this forum is what it is and honestly people need to accept that, get together and constructively make adjustments as an entire membership, or move on.
Hmm. That's so loaded. I imagine many a person reading it is gonna go 'hey wait a minute...you don't think Rogue meant...but I'm nice I really am...' Heh.
