Mahubah wrote:Good advice is one thing. Pushing is another. Apparently your mom hasn't learned the difference yet.
I do think it is partially a joke .. funny how it always intensifies when Grandmother is here, though. Not that she didn't make the comments before ... and always when she met one of my male friends (which I have a lot of ... just none that I would ever consider getting involved, let alone 'physical', with). That's why I stopped introducing my friends to them when I was still in high school.
Mahubah wrote:What's the fuss anyway? Aren't you self-supporting, with a good job?
Admittedly, not at the moment. Not since I was banished to this hellhole. Bad time to be out of work and an even worse city to be looking for it in (I though I had a job a few weeks ago .. the company went bankrupt the day before I was suppose to start).
I'm living in the guesthouse out front and killing my savings/inheritance. Not that that mattered in the slightest. I got the same comments when I was pulling down nearly $40k a year on my own and quite content with life ... it's not good enough for her. Even though she denies it, she'd long ago bought into that brainwashing BS that at some point all women should be married ... at least she's never really pushed the having kids thing, though.
Mahubah wrote:If you happen to come across one that shares some of your vision in life (it's never 100%) and is willing to embark on the give and take of walking the same path side by side -- AND that's what you want too -- great. If not, you've got a life and plenty of things to do with it -- you obviously don't need a man just to have one.
See, this is what kills me about people when they start in on that "when are you going to get married/have kids/settle down" garbage. And of course its always the married breeders who do it. They act like there is a plethora of single, eligible and ACCEPTABLE men out there just dying to get married and procreate.
Maybe there are, damned if I can find them or even know where to look. Most of the guys I know in my age bracket are still narcissistic, over-grown children and have NO desire to grow up. A lot of them change girlfriends so fast, I need a score card to keep up. I have NO problem with that since they are just friends, but I'm sure as hell not going to bring one into MY life.
On top of that ... honestly ... how many men (or women if there are any guys still following this) have you met in your life that you would actually consider making a permanent place for IN your life? I can think of 4 for me and 1 that was just an .. intense infatuation

Of the other 3, one was married (so a no go), one I did get involved with (mom adored him) and it got ugly and the third ... the timing was just never right, a lot of which can be blamed on the second (ugly, ugly situation -- I plead temporary insanity).
The idea that I'm going to find someone JUST to get involved with them is crazy. I used to hear that in high school from girls who have NO clue how to be alone. They were generally the ones that wound up pregnant before they'd graduated.