Misery Loves Company

madelyn · Postby **madelyn** » Mon Apr 14, 2008 5:55 pm

Ah, Mahubah, blind spots indeed. He is actually so sweet and kind by nature, he is just completely OBLIVIOUS.

clh · Postby **clh** » Mon Apr 14, 2008 7:05 pm

DO NOT EVER LET THEM FOOL YOU - IT IS ALL AN ACT! They know exactly what they are doing.

Just like the time the sump pump went out and we're in the basement trying to fix it and hubby says "plug this in babe". As he jumps on a block of wood and I'm standing shin deep in water! DUH. If I ever end up dead - he murdered me!

Nessa · Postby **Nessa** » Mon Apr 14, 2008 7:19 pm

Wow you guys are amazing, and tough as nails to boot. You ladies also might want to try the herb Comfrey. It's been used for centuries for aiding in bone repair. Good Luck and Good Health for the rest of the year. You deserve it. :wink:

clh · Postby **clh** » Wed Apr 23, 2008 5:36 am

Woo-hoo! Went to the surgeon yesterday and got the staples out. Felt wonderful as they were itching to beat the band. Said I could add a little more weight on the leg but not much. Still have to use the walker for another four weeks. Jeez oh pete is this a pain in the rear!

Good news is that I'm on Chantix now and the smoking is getting less so it must be working!!

judi · Postby **judi** » Wed Apr 23, 2008 6:24 am

It is good to read that things are getting better.

madelyn · Postby **madelyn** » Wed Apr 23, 2008 8:05 am

GREAT FOR YOU!!

Mahubah · Postby **Mahubah** » Wed Apr 23, 2008 5:14 pm

On the mend is always great! How about you, Madelyn...or are we going to get the next post from the women's lockup after hubby pulls one too many?

Jenny · Postby **Jenny** » Thu Apr 24, 2008 5:42 am

I finally have just had a chance to read this thread again. I am LMAO over the comments on your husbands. They all sound alike don't they? Mine included. Extremely smart, he is a P Eng. but thick as pig sh!#@ in real life!!! lol

WarHorse · Postby **WarHorse** » Thu May 01, 2008 10:01 am

madelyn wrote:Ah, Mahubah, blind spots indeed. He is actually so sweet and kind by nature, he is just completely OBLIVIOUS.

Just jumping in with a guess here, but it seems that the husbands in question simply do not know how to act. They literally don't know what to do.

You are strong women, self-actuating and independent. That is who they married. Now suddenly things have changed - and they have left their nurturing side behind a long time ago. What to do?

Maybe the whole point of marrying strong independent woman was to avoid this scenario. Now it's been thrust upon them.

Perhaps a few pointers and some discreet instructions would help? Tell them what your needs are and give verbal rewards for their actions. Allow them to think about your predicament and anticipate your needs without fear of getting a tongue-lashing.

Just my two cents.

clh · Postby **clh** » Thu May 01, 2008 9:04 pm

WarHorse - you been talking to my hubby? (HA). Actually I bellieve Madelyn and I are both independent and strong-willed women and yes our husbands are professionals in their fields and work very hard, they are not the nuturing type of men. Probably however it is due to our age - when the men-folk did not take off work to take care of a sick baby, the women did most of the child-rearing and the cooking and the housework. I'm so glad my daughter-in-law has it much better since my son was raised to be very nuturing and loving. He does cook and bathe the kids. Our husbands probably screw up on purpose just so they don't have to do the laundry (HA). And at the risk of being banned I have found most husbands prefer other kinds of rewards other than verbal :roll:

and right now - us crips are not quite up to those kinds of rewards :wink:

WarHorse · Postby **WarHorse** » Fri May 02, 2008 6:20 pm

clh wrote:Our husbands probably screw up on purpose just so they don't have to do the laundry (HA).

I hadn't thought of that, but it certainly is possible. :lol:

Sunday Rider · Postby **Sunday Rider** » Sun May 04, 2008 7:29 am

WOW OH WOW OH WOW So so sorry clh, you have always been so so nice and have always had nice things to pick everybody up! I just returned back to the forum after a long too long break, I got my feeling trampled and was stampeeded by someone in here that made fun of my spelling,very hurtful

I hope you are doing better now

I aslo hope you have not killed any "helpful" family menbers. I think we can all relate to being laid up and getting 'help" I find that I end up doing twice as much work cleaning up after my help :lol:

Sunday Rider · Postby **Sunday Rider** » Sun May 04, 2008 7:38 am

WOW OH WOW OH WOW So so sorry clh, you have always been so so nice and have always had nice things to pick everybody up! I just returned back to the forum after a long too long break, I got my feeling trampled and was stampeeded by someone in here that made fun of my spelling,very hurtful

I hope you are doing better now

I aslo hope you have not killed any "helpful" family menbers. I think we can all relate to being laid up and getting 'help" I find that I end up doing twice as much work cleaning up after my help :lol:

clh · Postby **clh** » Sun May 04, 2008 10:01 am

Oh Sunday Rider - please don't let someone run you off again. I figure I gain alot of experience from this board and no one here is any better than I am - may be smarter (ie, higher intelligence, better spelling skills, more horse experience, etc...) but that doesn't make them any better than I am

And yes, it will take me a month of Sundays to find everything in my house again. Hubby of course never puts anything away! My neice and sister alternate mornings and evenings so one will take something out of the cabinets and another one will put it away - needless to say - it never goes back where it came from. Small price to pay for someone agreeing to come and help me out when I am such a terrible patient to begin with (HA). It is times like this when I really miss my mom. She's still around but had a massive stroke about six years ago so she is confined to a wheelchair and is apraxic and aphasic so she can jabber but can't talk. Very frustrating for her since she is home and all the lights are on. But no matter how old (or young) you are - you still want your mom when you are sick!!!

Sunday Rider · Postby **Sunday Rider** » Mon May 05, 2008 5:21 am

Thanks again clh, my Mom had a stroke also about 6 or 7 years ago. She lost her entire right side and site in her right eye. As you know, we all set up our houses,kitchens,et like our Mom's so, Mom always put everything back right where it belongs :lol:

My daughters have come to my rescue when I broke a rib,had a compound fracture of my humorous,frozen shoulder,double sprained ankle. That all add up to nothing compaired to your hip.I really don't want to so much as to break a fingernail ever again

Now don't we sound like old war vets sitting around talking about our old wounds :lol:

I have used this form for great advice and insite on help with my horses as well as friends horses

I do enjoy it and am glad to be back